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Balanbam00
13-10-2014, 06:13 AM
Some may be in that group others are getting there ? The Golden age or what ?

Debate and discuss,ideas , or your thoughts ?

Sidney1st
13-10-2014, 07:45 AM
Lucky sods!!


When you say lonely, do you mean single?
If so then It doesn't have to be lonely.

Balanbam00
13-10-2014, 09:31 AM
This morning I saw in todays DM newspaper, but did not read it (just the heading)

The number of old men living alone and at risk of severe loneliness is set to soar in future years, new research shows.The number of men aged over 65 who live alone is to rise 65 per cent to 1.5million by 2030.
The report warns that men are at greater risk than women because they outlive their partners more and have significantly less contact with their children, family and friends.
In general, men rely more heavily on their partner to remain socially connected. When their partner dies, often a man's social life shrinks
Being that in general that a, broader problem of loneliness in our busy lives is such we have utterly failed to confront it as a society.
Debate, its one of your future problems. :-)

Sidney1st
13-10-2014, 09:46 AM
It's not one of my future problems, I'm quite happy when I'm left alone to do what I want.

Women are the ones who need to be constantly involved in society ,social circles , discussing everyone else's problems/lives etc.

Blokes just want to do their own thing , socialise if they want too and be able to shut the door on society when they feel like it.
Plus they get full control of the TV when they are alone >:) .

Rick_Muller
13-10-2014, 10:34 AM
with Sid on this...

...can someone tell my missus :blue: XD

claretblue
13-10-2014, 10:36 AM
think this is the article -

see link: - view external link (www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2790570/more-1-5million-men-face-lonely-old-age-number-50s-living-set-rise-65-15-years.htm)

CleggHall
13-10-2014, 10:54 AM
This Message Board helps beat loneliness with all the diverse views, chat and banter including some useful political discussions and non- football matters. It is worth signing in several times a day. I retired in 2010 and have enjoyed both retirement and Clarets Mad ever since. :D

Boliclaret
13-10-2014, 11:06 AM
I think the internet has certainly helped.

Being on line means you can watch,read and Audiobook listen to what you want when you want and listen to any type of music ever recorded. Any curiosity we have we can google, whilst talking on Skype and answering our mobiles every 5 minutes.

Gone are the days of sitting in front of boring daytime TV and looking forward to Call My Bluff.

Balanbam00
13-10-2014, 11:28 AM
I agree some interesting points. Today we are happy, we find what we want ,some interesting discussions too on this board. But the world changes, and so do you. What would you do if there were no football matches ? How many people have left such message boards because in the end, its the same old people with the same views ,can't be bothered no more ? What if tomorrow suddenly you lost your partner in life ,would your world suddenly 'cave in?
Do you really have that 'taste' for life and its changes ,or has that " can't be bothered no more, set in"? What do you do to add that 'spark ' in your life?...when perhaps you look back at your life, do you see where certain things you did, just do not interest you no more?

barrie_burn
13-10-2014, 12:55 PM
I retired in 1999 and know quite a few widowers.The key to it is having your health.Providing you have that I don't see why you should be lonely.If you have sporting interests you can still be involved eg golf,bowls etc or you can be a spectator or supporter.If your interests are clubs there are many you can join eg Probus,history societies,bridge etc.If you elect to sit at home and watch TV that is your choice.

I appreciate that if you are infirm then it can be very difficult but there is still a lot of help and support that you can get,you do not need to be confined to the house.

Quicknick
13-10-2014, 03:22 PM
Sidney1st has it right.

DarkCloud
13-10-2014, 09:21 PM
Surely I'm not the only bloke who is actually rather looking forward to it!!

stalbansclaret
13-10-2014, 09:41 PM
I spend a fair bit of time on my own and have to say I think Sidney has summed things up well.You really have to be particularly mentally stagnant to be bored nowadays. However it IS important to have at least a few solid mates or other social contacts through hobbies so you have options for company and a few beers when you need it I think. Supporting the Clarets and running a Sunday football team keep me pretty busy for starters.

GordonvaleClaret
13-10-2014, 11:22 PM
A big "SPOT ON" from me to Sidney1st.

DownUnderClaret
14-10-2014, 08:45 AM
I reckon that article is ar$e about if it reckons men are more likely to outlive their wives. It's common knowledge that women live on average 3 years longer than men. You've only got to look in any nursing home and see which sex is in the majority and it isn't males.

culmclaret
14-10-2014, 04:31 PM
I think the issue is not that men live longer than women (which on average they still don't) but that the gap is closing, and therefore more men are outliving their partners than hitherto.

Balanbam00
15-10-2014, 02:42 AM
From todays DM ...

I am alone, now I know it's true
There was a time when we were two
Those were the days when we would chat
Doing little jobs of this and that
We'd go to the shops and select our meals
But now I'm one I know how it feels
To try and cook or have meals on wheels
The rooms are empty there's not a sound
Sometimes I'm lost and wander round
To look for jobs that I can do
To bring back the days when we were two
When darkness falls and curtains drawn
That's when I feel most forlorn
But I must be honest and tell the truth
I'm not quite alone and here's the proof
Because beside me in her chair
She quietly waits our time to share
Kath said to me some time ago
Darling when the time comes for us to go
Let's mix our ashes and be together
So we can snuggle up for ever and ever

Bob Lowe, aged 93. - view external link (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2792540/widower-93-writes-moving-poem-loneliness-losing-wife-65-years.html)