Looking for a fight

[WBA1955]

Why do some men actually go out for this purpose? Why are some men perpetually angry?
Anyone who goes to a nightclub with a knife isn't going to do a bit of whittling.
I was in a pub when I was about twenty and this big bloke with two mates kept staring at me. When I stared back he came over and asked what I was looking at. I asked him how many guesses I had got. It was like one of those westerns when everyone goes quiet while we faced off. Eventually he blinked first, muttered something about me watching myself and left with his mates.
That incident could have turned out very nasty and I had only gone for a quiet pint. He obviously hadn't and he probably picked on someone else the next pub they went in.

[mickd1961]

My brother turns really nasty after a few drinks.

I only went out twice with him during t e e n s and our 20’s.

We were at The Dome in Brum, he asked a girl for a dance and she refused and he promptly poured his pint of beer over her head!

Mayhem ensued as the bouncers tried to grab him and the other three of us who were with him, totally uncalled for behaviour.

On another night out in Stourbridge he accused someone of looking at him the wrong way and then shoved his pint glass into the blokes face, thankfully it didn’t break but it was horrible behaviour.

He’s spent plenty of nights in police cells due to his penchant for violence.

And people locally are still amazed that I don’t have any time for him and have only spoken to him once, briefly in the last four years.

He’s regarded as a “Jack The Lad” by mates and family and I’m seen to be the one who’s a “problem” for not “lightening up” and for not engaging with him.

He was a violent child, violent t e e n a g e r and violent adult, this trait doesn’t change in people.

[Omegstrat6]

Maybe some of it is down to "little man" syndrome?😃
Best one I recall was many years ago and there were 3 of us having a drink in this pub and then about 10 lads come in led by this **** who's uncle is a genuine hard case but he's been living off of his reputation. Anyhow, they start getting a bit leary and throwing stuff about so I throw it back and then they all stand up to face off on us and the pub just goes suddenly deadly quiet. I'm thinking that 3 to ten ain't good odds but one of my mates is a big lad and useful and I'm thinking I'll have the gob****e even if we're stuffed so grab a bottle (I was far too young then to appreciate that discretion might be the better part of valour&#128580. Anyhow, just then my other mate means forward and blows their leader a kiss in his face and this completely flummoxes him and he just doesn't know how to react so he mutters something about "****in puffs!" and then they all just leave!😂 Brilliant way to diffuse the situation! -mind you, can't see this tactic working in some establishments I can think of!

[WBA1955]

If someone is looking for a fight you don't show weakness, there is a small chance that if you stand your ground the other guy will back off.
Never say what's the matter mate or I haven't done anything, he is going to hit you anyway.
If you can see he isn't going to back down hit him first, as hard as you can. This turns the table and makes him the weak. It shocks and may tip the odds in your favour though it's doubtful if there's more than one, though his mate's would likely be followers.
The last time anything like this happened was just a few years ago I was in a pub reading a paper. I put it down to go to the loo and when I came back a Gypsy and his wife had sat next to me and she was reading the paper.
He said she's got your paper.
I said I have read it, she can have it.
He said I was trying to cause an argument.
I said touch my beer then, that'll do the trick.
After a few seconds he laughed and we became friends, we still are.
Fortunately these things don't happen very often to me.

[baggieal]

In life it’s always best to walk away whether it’s a road incident or somebody threatening you - it’s not worth it!

Generally apart from road incidents you know where trouble is so why go to that place. Bit like football matches you know usually the places to avoid,

Sadly in life the rougher the area the rougher the people - the rougher the places and the rougher the schools. Fact of life!

Location location location is so true about everything whether it’s house prices - less crime - best schools - respect - or less trouble!

PS - in my day people used to fight with their fists but now a 12 year old kid could kill an heavy weight boxer - just one plunge with a knife and bang! Walk away as not worth it which is what I keep telling my kids! Put your middle finger up driving a car now - the reality is someone on drugs could stop you with an
Iron bar! Laugh - keep moving and enjoy life!

[Leicesterbaggie]

Good advice Al. Use your common sense and avoid potential trouble areas. There is the odd occasion when you could get yourself caught up in a problem, not of your doing, but in general, if you can possibly avoid it, do so!

[Barrera]

Weird situation happened to me on the London Underground a few weeks ago - the first time I had been on it in two years. Was waiting on a Piccadilly Line platform at a West End station. Plenty of people around. Suddenly a big muscle bound guy walks past - about 6’5” dressed in a T-shirt and combat pants. Short hair and wearing sunglasses. This is the Underground and mid-Winter. He stopped 10 yards down the platform from me then turned around. Came back and stood in front of me on edge of the platform - me with my back to the wall - watching me out of the corner of his eye. After a few mins he came to stand right next to me just stared about two feet away. Train came and I thought better move along the platform. This guy followed me .. staring all the time. I got on the train and moved along the carriage. He followed me until I stopped at the end of the carriage - he continued to stare from two feet. My mind was racing ... WTF do I do now. Do I confront the guy? ignore the guy? Is he a lunatic? Does he have a weapon? I decided to get off at the next stop and as I brushed past him he said “have a nice day , sir” in a thick Russian accent. Saw the transport police in the next carriage so got back on the train and reported the incident. Next stop the police got out but the guy ran off. Police said some people get a kick out of frightening the s*** out of other people ..... I guess this is life nowadays ..... thankfully I think I made the right decision not to confront ...