I hear you Des.

Mother and father in law had to go into care a year ago due to her severe Parkinson's and his severe dementia.

Being in care saw off the old dear after nine months.

Father in laws care costs keep rising.

They were careful and saved all their lives,they never had a mortgage,they saved for years until they could afford to pay for their house for cash.

First question asked when they were both taken into hospital by social services was......"do they own their own house?

After they'd entered the home of around 40 people my wife was told they were two of only four people paying for their own care!!

My wife is a bit older than me st 61 and she's already made the decision that she's taking herself off to Switzerland if she's diagnosed with early onset dementia as it's rife in her family and nothing will sway her on this.

I'm not so brave.......some poor sod is going to be wiping my a r s e at some point!

All the best to your mum Des.