Thanks Howoldboy, much appreciated from me..


One of my skeletons is about falling out over words..

My mum & step dad lived in a cottage next to a canal over the road from a pub. Retirement was not good to them as the temptation of 12pm > 12pm over the road took over their lives as did drinking a litre of whiskey a day.. they stopped coming to see their grandkids & only son and just sent £10 in a card for Xmas & birthdays. I found out equity release was funding it but it wasn’t about the money even though they paid £15k for the house many years before & I paid a 3rd of it.. to hear a 5 & 11 year old say “nana & grandad” don’t love us anymore was enough… huge row & did not speak for about 5 years..

Went away to Majorca for the weekend of my 50th & came back to a card & recognised the handwriting. All it said inside was 2 words… Love you …

The day after I was in the Dog.. swallowed my pride & rang them… too late, my Step Dad died that morning.. went up next day & found my mum in terrible health.. 2 & half weeks later I held her hand as she died a terrible painful death of septicaemia as her internal organs failed…

When I have been wrong as an example the case of Chalky & James Vs BDB on me saying they were more than friends.. I publicly & privately apologised…

Why am I sharing this? - Life is too short & petty things escalate.. we all say things in haste or the heat of the moment.. an apology costs nothing