Quote Originally Posted by baggieal View Post
Problem though when you have teams - why should those kids who are talented suffer? I get it if there’s only enough for one team as give every child some playing time as football is for every one. With two sides though - talented kids are happy as they are competitive and want to win. The other team who are less able won’t have an inferior confidence problem as they will be playing with similar kids.

Big row going on in Ripon as many parents want one of the last grammar schools abolished as they feel with bright kids altogether it’s weakening on local schools. Strange that those parents who are bitter are the ones whose kids would never pass the 11+ to get in. Bright/talented kids should thrive at their own pace. Academies are ruthless as they trial a kid and reject them if not good enough. Sadly this is a competitive world and life!

I wish I had been a scientist but sadly I was not bright enough!!!
The problem is that too many parents try to live their version of a perfect life through their kids.

My brother’s second ex wife is a perfect example.

She made her son, the eldest’s, life an absolute misery because he didn’t go to university.

He was clever enough to realise he wasn’t academically clever enough to go but it ruined her image of the perfect child ( even though she didn’t go to uni! )

The daughter is clever, went to university and got a good degree, she’s just got a good job albeit not in law which was her target.

Meanwhile, the lad, works manually with his dad ( my brother) and works his nuts off and he loves it.

Unfortunately, his mum constantly derided him and says he’s a failure and he’s “got nothing” behind him in life and that he needs to “leave, get out of the house” and find his own place.

He’s only 23 FFS and he’s working hard.

My brother mentioned the other day whilst they were at my house that the lad’s mum, met my brother at 23 at which time she was a junior cashier at a bank, had no university education, lived at home until she was 26, drove a wracked off £350 Mini Metro and was partying and living on E’s and cocaine.

What a f king hateful b itch.

I despise people who make their kids lives a misery by trying to live a new life vicariously through that child.

Any good parent knows the strengths and weaknesses of their child and should treat each one on its own particular merits and support its chosen path whatever that may be.