Being Dad

[MissWinnie]

Yubby, I'm slightly more worried about whether your girls have recovered from witnessing their dad's dance off, than you.

[yubbywelch]

My attempt at the advised and recommended sprinkler was very poor, so I did a handstand.

and won me thousands of instant supporters.

[dazzyo-villa]

Well had my own moment yesterday..

My lads nearly 7 and loves playing Fifa, he is also getting into his music and quite often goes on Spotify or you tube on the lap top.

Anyway he's been listening to the new Fifa soundtrack and yesterday we was chilling out and he put it on and me and his mum just looked at each other as one song was quite explicit and f word was being reeled out.

We don't use that kind of language around him and even though I know he's heard it at school he knew it was wrong and was quite upset ( bless him)

Bit annoyed with myself for being lapse about what he does on the laptop.

[yubbywelch]

Good on you Dad.

Our children we become adults, and what we allow and condone will be a big part of their eventual character.

Children thrive for boundary's, they will push very hard to find them, but they feel safe inside them. eg School, home, sporting teams, friends etc.

[MissWinnie]

My attempt at the advised and recommended sprinkler was very poor, so I did a handstand.

and won me thousands of instant supporters.

You big show off Dad.

[MissWinnie]

Well had my own moment yesterday..

My lads nearly 7 and loves playing Fifa, he is also getting into his music and quite often goes on Spotify or you tube on the lap top.

Anyway he's been listening to the new Fifa soundtrack and yesterday we was chilling out and he put it on and me and his mum just looked at each other as one song was quite explicit and f word was being reeled out.

We don't use that kind of language around him and even though I know he's heard it at school he knew it was wrong and was quite upset ( bless him)

Bit annoyed with myself for being lapse about what he does on the laptop.

Ahh, it's kind of sweet that he got upset about it, Dazzy Dad. Sadly hear so much bad language from little ones ...

A couple of months ago, a friend's little boy and his mate had been hearing a rather naughty word beginning with the letter c bandied about at their infant school, and were desperate to know what it meant.

[yubbywelch]

I hate that Chelsea word.

Don't tell them the meaning sis.

[yubbywelch]

One of daughter's is super cautious. To the extent she gets scared, to almost panic attacks.

Once a grasshopper jumped on her, and freaked out.

I couple of weeks ago my mothers cat scratched her, another time a mouse was spotted in the corner of a room, both times she lost it, she cry's and shakes, and usually takes awhile to calm down

[yubbywelch]

Last weekend I got her to help me with toasted cheese sanga's under the grill.

Whilst the grill was on she wouldn't go anywhere near it. I almost lost it, over something so simple to me (she hasn't been burnt before)

Any tips on how to improve her confidence with all things.

She is 10.

[MissWinnie]

Yubby, I'm not a parent, so there are probably other people here who are more qualified/experienced to help, but just a couple of thoughts, based on trying to help people feel less anxious ...

Firstly - breathing. If she is in panic mode - just try getting her to breathe out. She needs to be breathing out for longer than she is breathing in, but when people are feeling panicky, counting the length of breaths is difficult to do, so just calmly try talking her into breathing out for as long as she can. She will breathe in again when she needs to!

In terms of if she has specific fears of something eg the grill, it is sometimes helpful to just try breaking a feared task into baby steps. Eg with regards to the grill pan ... (just off the top of my head, you may come up with better) Perhaps the first time, letting her turn on the grill, and adjust it to the right level, while you do the rest. Maybe next time, she can put the bread and cheese onto the grill pan, The next time, maybe