Hi

This isn't about football - so feel free to stop reading - I am just venting and dont have anywhere else to go.

I am knocking on a bit - the next big one for me is the big "80". My neighbour is a bit of a dick, but generally we never talk and usually everything is ok. Last week I was out in the garden and he came out and had a go at me. I have an overhanging apple tree that is dropping its last apples in his back yard (i know i know - apples in december). It is my fault, and I have somebody booked in to trim it back. I accept all responsibility for it.

My neighbour was right to be angry that it was not yet sorted, but he was very abusive towards me, and the conversation made me understand that if it isnt sorted soon, i might need to remove some of the debris from an area the sun doesnt shine.

Fine.... no worries, I am not after confrontation. However, I was a little shaken, and will just keep my distance from him.

Later that night I recieved a call from my son - he could tell I was a little shaken when we spoke, and asked me what was wronf. My son always comes over for christmas - and has told me that he is going to knock on my neighbours door and 'put him in his place' and "show him what time of day it is" (whatever that means).

I do not want this. Not for me, or my son. I am not worried for my son's safety, he has fought MMA and kickboxing professionally in the past (he is in his late 40s now but still trains and teaches).


But my son is stubborn - he wont listen to me, ever - I am so stressed that he will do something that he will have to carry consequences for. He just does not listen - i cant face the stress of waiting for the next two weeks just to have it all kick off at my front door on christmas day!.

He has a history of losing his temper and he always means well, and only loses his temper with people he thinks are "bullys" but his actions almost always result in physical confrontations when he gets like this.

And to top it off, he doesnt care that after he "sorts this for me", he goes back home down south and i have to stay here and put up with the aftermath. He cant see the big picture and just let this pass.

I have no idea how any of you can help - i just wanted to vent - i just wish he wasnt so stubborn, and that sometimes he would listen to me.

Im thinking of pretending i have been invited elsewhere for christmas, and therefore stopping him visiting. But that way ill not see my granddaughter, and I only see her once or twice a year at most anyway.

Sorry for venting - ill probably delete this soon...

But my son wont see it - he isnt a football fan.


Anyway, if you read this far - well done.