It’s a Man’s Man’s Man’s World ………. is it ???

[pass_and_move]

Good post Pass .

The one thing that stood out about my previous struggles with mental health was that I was told that whilst we are here to support and advise , ultimately the improvements in my mental health are down to me , the man in the mirror .

What I'm seeing in many cases today but not totally by any means is that poor mental health can be used to cop out , not take personal responsibility and this has had in itself a poor reflection on attitudes towards mental health .

My daughters so called partner is a classic example , who will pull the mental health card out as an excuse not to work and support his partner and two kids , won't take any responsibility what so ever in life , a complete and utter waste of space .

In many cases going to work and having a routine to your life is one positive area that greatly helps your mental health .

My own problems were simply down to events in life , a very painful marriage breakup with a third party involved , this created huge financial problems , a house I couldn't sell other than below what was owed on it , I then was made redundant just after the financial crash in 2008 and the subsequent recession that occurred .

Everything simply collapsed around me in the space of 6 months and I totally broke down .

I was really ill , shut myself away and became isolated and disconnected , I couldn't cope with the outside world , I had panic attacks when I was shopping and it was busy , I could hardly bear to leave the little flat I ended up renting .

Slowly and I do mean slowly I started to put myself back together , regained some confidence and self esteem , found a job but it didn't happen overnight by any means , it took years and that was with support and advise but as I said it only goes so far and you have to mend yourself with the tools the support system gives you .

Here's the thing , I've remarried , lucky to have a wonderful wife , soul mate , two lovely grandkids and in the best financial position in my entire life .

My struggles weren't the end of me , they were the beginning of a better life .

Life's a bloody journey .

Inspiring story Animal and fair play to you for your brutal honesty

Metaphorically speaking, I regard life like a mountain, you seek to conquer it and reach the summit. However, you never reach the summit do you. There's an avalanche that takes you from near the summit back to the very bottom and the challenge starts all over again.